The Christmas period can be a difficult time for people for many reasons. Here’s how you can be part of Mind’s movement towards a better future for mental health this Christmas and beyond
The festive season is the time of year when we’re often expected to feel most joyous but for many, Christmas can be one of the hardest. It can be difficult for people for a number of reasons, such as financial pressures or family challenges. They might be grieving the loss of a loved one who isn’t here this Christmas, or they might have a mental health problem that can make the festivities harder to cope with.
Stephen Buckley, Head of Information at Mind, the mental health charity, notes that Christmas can be difficult for many different reasons. “For those of us who are struggling with our own mental health or who have lost a loved one to a mental health problem, Christmas can shine a light on the problems we’re facing and the people who aren’t there – who should be,” Stephen says.
“Some might also be finding it difficult to care for their wellbeing, navigating difficult relationships, or feeling isolated and without anyone to confide in. It’s important that they know if they are feeling this way, they’re not alone.”
If you know someone who is struggling with their mental health this Christmas, here are five ways you can support them:
1. Understand that Christmas can mean something different to other people
Christmas means different things to different people, so it’s important to remember that others might not share the same feelings and experiences that you do. Many people see Christmas as a religious celebration, some see it as a time to spend with friends and family. Others might take time over the holidays to reflect and heal, and some don’t celebrate it at all. For a lot of people, Christmas can also be a time of stress, loneliness and isolation. You might feel like you're sharing a celebration, but they might not feel the same way.
2. Ask them if there are certain things about Christmas that are difficult for them
Avoid making assumptions about why someone might find Christmas hard and ask them what parts of the festive season they find difficult to navigate. Importantly, you can ask what they think might help. For example, it could be helping them plan how to deal with difficult conversations. You could also support them if they want to avoid certain situations, such as religious celebrations or visiting family.
3. Try to make Christmas more inclusive
For example, if someone has caring responsibilities at Christmas, try to arrange activities around their schedule so they can join in.
4. Let people know you're thinking of them
If someone you know is struggling or feeling lonely at Christmas, it might mean a lot to them to hear from you. You could give them a call, send a card or pop by to see them. Talk to your loved one and let them know that you’re there for them whenever they need you.
5. Direct them to support
If your loved one is struggling, direct them to, or help them find, support. For general information or advice, visit Mind. If you are worried that someone is in immediate danger, urge them to call Samaritans on 116 123 or support them to call 999 or visit their nearest A&E.
Remember that it’s important to look after yourself during this time, too. Supporting someone else can be difficult. You might feel sad or conflicted, so it can help to talk to someone you trust about how this is affecting you.
Mind is there for everyone. From answering helpline calls to fighting for people’s rights and providing life-saving support, they won’t give up until everyone experiencing a mental health problem gets support and respect. This Christmas, you can play a part in helping to build a better future for mental health. “Help us spark vital conversations and give someone the strength to seek help while there’s still time,” says Stephen.
If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, you can reach out to a counsellor or therapist for support on Counselling Directory.
Mind, the mental health charity, provides advice and support to empower anyone experiencing a mental health problem. Find out more on their website mind.org.uk.
Call their confidential Infoline, available on 0300 123 3393 (Monday to Friday, 9am-6pm). Calls are charged at local rates, or email [email protected].
Side by Side is a safe, moderated online peer support community where people aged 18+ with mental health problems can share their story, connect with others and access Mind's wider information and resources sidebyside.mind.org.uk.