Not everyone who needs support is able to articulate it; watch out for these signals that it could be worth checking-in with someone you care for, and instigating the conversation
Significant changes in behaviour
This can be on either end of the scale, with them becoming suddenly more energetic and overly positive, or withdrawn and more reserved. They might engage in more risky behaviours, drink excessively, or conversely, sleep most of the time. Even their attitude might feel different, perhaps more solemn, or snappy and argumentative.
Avoiding socialising and minimising contact with loved ones
Retreating from company, constantly cancelling plans, and seemingly isolating themselves can suggest they might be going through something – especially if this is persistent or out of character.
Constantly on-the-go and busy
When someone seems unable or unwilling to pause, it might be a sign that they need ongoing distractions from their feelings. They might be refusing to take it easy, as it will be harder to avoid or ignore their emotions.
Neglecting themselves
When going through a hard time, we can feel hopeless, helpless, or even unworthy of love. This might present in not taking care of themselves or their space – with less attention to personal hygiene, not eating properly, or letting their home fall into disarray.
Seemingly disinterested and disengaged
Suddenly showing no interest in topics or activities they once loved, or anything for that matter, can flag that they’re not in a good headspace. The things they enjoyed no longer stimulate them, and they might feel it’s pointless to do anything at all in that case.
Apologising a lot or oversharing
If you focus on their language, do you notice them apologising constantly, even for things they’re not responsible for? You might also notice them passing off dark feelings or thoughts as jokes, but there could be a pattern to it, and this is their outlet for when they can’t keep it in any more – but are afraid of how to approach the conversation.
Being overly empathetic to others
This is a really subtle sign as they can appear fine on the surface, invested in asking others how they’re doing and checking in. But alongside being a good friend, the motive can be hoping that someone reciprocates. They want someone to ask how they are, or what’s wrong, so they can finally let it out.